Why Women Are Drawn To Men Who Are Confident & Mysterious Men

Why women are drawn to men who display confidence and mysteriousness.

In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email success story from a viewer and coaching client of six years from the land down under. He’s read 3% Man and Mastering Yourself over 20 times. He shares how he met and seduced a woman in the mall. He says it was one of the best nights of his life.

She was complimenting him on how he made strong eye contact, was confident, mysterious and asked questions that made her feel like he really cared about who she was. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

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All the best success stories always have the same things in common: they’ve read my books dozens and dozens of times. He says he’s read 3% Man 30 times. Mastering Yourself, he’s been through that 22 times. And Quotes, Ruminations & Contemplations — Volume I, he’s been through twice. I don’t see anything about the latest edition, the second volume of Quotes, Ruminations & Contemplations — Volume II, which the audiobook will be out soon finally, but the paperback, digital, and hardcover are all available now. But it just goes to show how easy and effortless this is.

What I like about him is he always likes to share his really good success stories, because he hopes to inspire anybody that’s listening that they can do the same things also. So, I appreciate clients like this, because they do the work, they put the time in. I’m great at what I do, and the books are great, and you can read them for free on my website. But the reality is he did the work, and that’s the important thing. You’ve got to participate in your own rescue, and this guy has been doing that consistently now for six years. And that’s why he’s got such a great success story, because he takes ownership of his own life, or as Jocko Willink would say, “extreme ownership.”

Viewer’s Email:

Dear Corey,

I just wanted to write in, from The Land Down Under, to share a success story with you, that I’m over the moon about. This feels like the exact kind of success story that I’ve been working towards for the 6 years that I’ve been following your work.

I also wanted to highlight, once again, just how much a man’s life can change when he commits to owning your teachings.

I am 23 years of age, and I have read:

I have also listened to:

  • Your Audio CD’s 16 times

Which are the free audio lessons that, once you subscribe to the newsletter, you get digital copies of my book that you can read in your web browser on any device that you’re on. Plus, there are a bunch of audio tracks that I recorded, going back to when I first started, when I was writing the first edition of my book.

I think we’re close to 3,000 videos now. So this guy’s a serious, serious student.

I have also had 3 Phone Coaching sessions with you.

A few weeks ago, I traveled to the big city for work. While I was there, I decided to go to the mall to practice my social skills.

He’s just like, “Hey, I’m going to the mall. I’ve got to practice.” Repetition is the mother of skill.

In one clothing store I went into, I saw and got speaking to this beautiful, model-esque woman — tall, amazing figure, sexy body, you name it. She was really easy-going and easy-to-get-along-with. I said to her, after 15 minutes of chatting…

So, this is important, 15 minutes he’s chatting her up, a complete stranger. The thing that’s so important with guys, because in the last few months, I’ve done several emails on guys who have gotten stood up or just jerked around. And this is really important, when you meet a woman — especially in person or online dating, you’re talking to the phone, or whatever — is making sure you have enough rapport.

Is she making an effort to engage you in conversation? Does she ask you personal questions about yourself? Does she seem genuinely excited that you’re talking to her and that she’s talking to you? These are things you’ve got to look for. And so, he spends about 15 minutes just chatting, having a good time with her, and because he’s done this enough, he can tell when there’s good rapport and she likes him.

“We should get together, when are you free to meet next week?”

Keep in mind, he’s in the big city. This is not where he actually lives, so he actually has to travel there.

To which she gave me her availability, and I made a date on the spot.

So, she’s completely at her work. He’s chatting her up in the mall, 15 minutes to establish rapport. He makes a date on the spot — definite day, definite time, definite place to get together. Because he spent 15 minutes with her, it’s enough time to gauge her real interest. And since he’s done this enough, he can tell women that are just kind of like, “Eh,” and women who are like, “Wow, I’d really love to go out with you. I’d really like to spend time with you.” You can feel it. It’s unmistakable.

Again, I wrote about numerous experiences that I had in my book, where women were really super interested, versus when they were not. But you’ve got to do this enough to get in that vibe where you can feel it. Remember, the person asking questions is the one that’s in control of the conversation. And just by focusing on her, and getting to know her, and her doing most of the talking, guess what? That’s how you remain mysterious. Therefore, she’s got to spend more time with you, so she can figure out what you’re all about.

Well, last night, I traveled back to her city and we had that date, and it went textbook. We had an amazing, deep conversation over an intimate dinner, and then went for a walk afterwards. It didn’t take long for her to start cuddling up close to me, and so I just knew it was time to go for the kiss. We started making out, I invited her back to my hotel, and I had one of the best nights of my life with her. During pillow talk…

Who doesn’t love pillow talk?

…she literally verified everything that you teach.

I’m pretty shocked.

She said she was drawn to me because of my strong eye contact…

I talk about this in the book. As a man, it expresses and displays strong eye contact when you look a woman in the eyes, you smile, and you don’t look away. When you look away first, it shows submissiveness. It shows a lack of confidence.

…confidence, mysteriousness…

Again, she’s doing most of the talking, so it’s kind of hard for her to get to know much about you when you’re so fascinated in getting to know her. It makes her feel special. Just like when you run into somebody you haven’t seen in awhile, an old high school buddy or whatever. “Hey, how have you been? What have you been up to? How are the kids? How’s the job? Are you guys living over in the same neighborhood?” Those are the kinds of conversations. That’s the kind of vibe you’re going to give off.

When you meet somebody that you like, you’re fascinated by them, and you’re asking the kinds of questions that they would enjoy answering, it creates rapport. You’re no longer a stranger; you’re somebody that they ‘feel’ — that’s the important thing with women — they ‘feel’ like they know you already.

…and my asking high-quality questions that made her feel like I really cared about who he was as a person. She said that after her last breakup, she never wanted anything to do with guys again, but that I have changed that for her, since I make her feel so safe and comfortable.

Remember, he didn’t know this girl at all. He ran into her in the mall or her place of work. He took the time to get to know her. He spent 15 minutes with her in the store, just chatting. The conversation’s flowing well. He made her feel safe. He made her feel comfortable. He gave off the vibe like he had done this before, and obviously he had, so it made her feel like, “I’m with a competent guy, a guy who knows what he’s doing, a guy who knows how to treat a lady.” That’s what makes women feel safe. There’s no weirdness, there’s no awkwardness. It’s just easy and effortless.

Corey, thanks to you, I just had one of the most exciting nights of my life, and my dreams and desires were brought to life. Thank you for so selflessly giving away all of the life-changing wisdom you have to share.

Well, as I say all the time, everything I have, my books, you can read them for free in the members area of my website. Just subscribe to the email newsletter. All it costs you is your first name and your email, and you can unsubscribe any time. But as soon as you subscribe, you can read, whether it’s a mobile device, a tablet, a laptop, a desktop, you can read the books right in your browser, instantly. And even if you think I’m full of shit, go apply it and you’ll get the same kinds of results.

It has improved this 23-year old’s life more than you know. I am committed to teaching your work to others and helping them spread the word. Until the next success story, thanks again Coach, and I would love to hear you read this in a Video Coaching Newsletter.


Well, congratulations, once again, to the 3% Club. These are earned. Don’t be going to Spring.com and buying a 3% Club mug unless you’ve earned it, like this guy has. But once you get there, you can reward yourself with a 3% Club mug.

Congratulations, dude. I’m very proud of you. You’re doing great. And thanks for sharing this, because this is the kind of thing where there will be a guy listening going, “I don’t know about that Corey Wayne guy. He’s kind of weird. I don’t like his voice. Who the hell is this dude?” But these are the kinds of things a guy like that, that’s skeptical, they go and read the reviews, and it’s like, they’re just everywhere. They’re all over the internet and the Reddit forums. I mean, the stuff that I teach works. Even if you don’t believe me, even you think I’m full of shit, if you apply what I teach, it will work for you.

So, if you’ve got a question or a challenge and you’d like to get my help, go to UnderstandingRelationships.com, click the Products tab at the top of your screen and book a coaching session with yours truly.



Life & Peak Performance Coach. I Teach Self-Reliance. Subscribe To My Newsletter To Read My eBooks “3% Man” & “Mastering Yourself” Free: http://bit.ly/CCWeBooks

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Life & Peak Performance Coach. I Teach Self-Reliance. Subscribe To My Newsletter To Read My eBooks “3% Man” & “Mastering Yourself” Free: http://bit.ly/CCWeBooks