The Wife Of A 3% Man Shares What She Loves About Him

Photo by iStock/Geber86

The wife of a 3% man shares what she loves about her husband and what separates him from all other men.

In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email success story from the wife of the viewer whose email I discussed in my video newsletter titled, “The Power Of Walking Away & Meaning It.” She shares why she fell in love with and married a man who is ten years older than her.

She talks about how he’s a great man and her rock, like her father was. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of her email.

*Disclosure: This article contains affiliate links. An affiliate link means I may earn referral fees if you make a purchase through my link, without any extra cost to you. Thank you for your support.

Today we’re going to talk about a woman who’s been with her man for many years now, and he’s been an avid student of How To Be A 3% Man. This is probably, I don’t know, the second, third or maybe fourth email that I’ve discussed of theirs over the years in different video newsletters. And it’s great to have somebody in Europe — this particular couple, I believe they’re in Germany — that both love my work, they’re advocates of it. They live it in their their marriage, they live it in their family.

I just did a video newsletter yesterday called, The Power Of Walking Away & Meaning It. It would be a great one to check out; that was from her husband. And now you’re going to hear what his beautiful wife has to say about him as a man, and how much he reminds her of her dad. She was daddy’s girl, and unfortunately, her father just passed away this past year. So, it’s a success story from a woman’s perspective, what it’s like being married to a guy who lives and embodies How To Be A 3% Man.

The world full of talkers and people that talk about what they’re going to do and never get around to it. All of those people are like, “Yeah, I’m going to go to the gym and get back into that. I’m really missing it. I’m going to start eating healthy. I’m going to lose 50 pounds. I’m going to quit that shitty job. I’m going to break up with that toxic person that’s treating me terribly,” and they never do. We all know people like that. And that’s how they bond and connect to others, complaining about their problems and their lives, but they never do anything about it.

Photo by iStock/lukas_zb

Viewer’s Email:

Hey Corey,

This is an email from my side, a lady and wife of a 3% man. I’ll tell you why I love my 10 years older husband.

Now, keep in mind, she’s German, so English is not her first language. But it’s still a really good email.

I was always daddy’s girl. My dad was a rough guy. He was a biker. Born December 1961, he had a military background, was a martial arts guy and was a complete original. Everything that had to do with fun and entertaining for me was his job. But he never spoiled me. He had his rules to go with, and I knew where the line was.

So, he set and enforced healthy boundaries with his little girl, who’s now, obviously, all grown up.

I looked up to him, he was my hero. My dad was never a big speaker. He was the one who grabbed the problems and got them out of the way.

It sounds like he was a very stoic, traditional, masculine man.

He stood up for what he believed in. He was my rock, my island and always there for me. When he passed away in September 2020, 200 bikers and the military gave him the last honor, it was amazing.

Photo by iStock/Lightguard

My mom was the one who did the schoolwork and gave me the life lessons, and my dad was complete available for the fun part. Even when my parents divorced, they never spoke bad about each other, and everybody was doing his part to make a great person out of me. This proves that being a divorced child is not a bad thing. It can work, because both parents need to come from a good working and loving home.

Well, your job as parents, whether you’re together or not, is to create a great human. It’s to co-parent together, not use your children as pawns in your war to hurt each other because of what the other person did or didn’t do when you were together.

Don’t let fucking divorce attorneys fuck your family up. Those guys are grifters, and they’re there to milk as much money from you as possible. It’s in their best interest to keep the conflict going, because then they can keep writing letters, and keep billing you by the hour, and draining your bank account and filling up their bank account. Anything you can do outside of your attorneys to come to an agreement between the two of you is in your best interest, your best financial interest, and the interest of your children.

My grandparents on both sides have been together for years. Sometimes things just don’t work out but staying in it for the kids was not my parents’ thing. I am so proud that I got a good education, because it is not normal as a divorce child to be that way. I know that.

I think that’s awesome. It sounds like your parents were awesome people. Even though they didn’t stay together, they co-parented because the mission was a shared mission, which was to make sure you grew up into an amazing woman, which it obviously sounds like you have.

When I got older and went to school, I was pretty much organized very early. I started my apprenticeship in geriatric care, and by the time I was 18, I was able to stand on my own feet. I love my job, and this year in the summer, I finish my class and will be a qualified specialist in helping and supporting old people with Alzheimer’s. I started back in the day with nursing, and now I am helping Alzheimer’s patients through their daily life. I am there for them and for their families.

Photo by iStock/Dean Mitchell

I started dating guys when I was 18 and was always on the lookout for a man who was older than me. I wanted a rough guy who was my foundation and my island, just like my dad was. I am the kind of girl who loves to be in my natural feminine side, but it takes the right guy to turn my switch over.

Yeah, it takes a guy that’s in his masculine energy, just like her father was, because that’s the only way she’s going to feel safe and comfortable to let go and let him lead, because he’s proven through his actions that he’s up to the task and he can handle it. He can handle her at her best and her worst. But it doesn’t mean that as a woman you can be an asshole and he’s got to put up with it continuously.

I noticed very quickly that younger guys were not having their shit together. Shy, girly, and there are those who only reduce girls to their body parts. But then there was my husband. When I met him back then, he worked at BMW in a higher position in Security. He was boxing for 2 years and still is today. From the moment I saw him, I noticed that he was like a rock, the island I was looking for. He did not say a lot, and when we went out, he was always showing me a good time and made me laugh.

Love is playful and fun, after all.

He never talked about his ex-wife, relationships or sex. He surprised me when we were on trips to German cities. He always had and has something up, and I never can tell what his plans are.

Yeah, he’s driving the fun bus. He makes the plans and invites her to join him. And even to this day, he’s still following what the book teaches. He hasn’t gotten lazy, he hasn’t gotten complacent, where he just sits at home and orders a pizza and a two-liter bottle of soda. He’s still romancing in his girl. The courtship never ends, after all.

Photo by iStock/Aja Koska

When we finally got engaged, the purple glasses where gone. We say that in Germany. It means that we knew each other well, and after 90 days the love was still there. But yes, it was my idea, and I really asked him where this all was going.

Just like it says in the book, I’m shocked!

He told me after we got engaged about your book 3% Man, and I was surprised, that it was so spot on.

Well, as I always like to say, I might not always be right, but I’m never wrong. Even if you think I’m full of shit, if you apply what’s in my books, it will make your life better. You’ll get better results than you have been getting.

He was the first man who stood up for me when I needed him. My former boss wanted to use me for social security fraud. He got violent towards me. I had called my husband before, because I had a feeling it would go this way. My Husband came just in the right time and stood up for me. He physically defended me successfully against my boss. He was there for me. I knew I could count on him. He doesn’t talk, he acts. He stands up for what is important to him. I feel safe with him.

Sadly, I lost my mom right after my dad, and again, my husband was there for me.

Damn, both in one year. That’s brutal.

He was strong when I was weak. Losing my parents was the hardest thing in my life so far, but it made me and my husband strong together. I’ll be honest with you, most men are not like that.

Oh boy, do I know.

Guys my age or younger, have no set of balls. I would not say that those guys are not available out there, but they are rare. I am so glad that you are able to give your book out through these guys. You’re making a difference in many people’s lives. The feedback speaks for itself.

Photo by iStock/martin-dm

That’s why I’ve been telling all the haters and some of the women that say that they’re marriage and couples therapists, one of them that was there was already telling me, “masculinity and femininity is is outdated.” If you’re a competent therapist, you’re not going to say something like that. I can just imagine, it sounds like she’s teaching the couples that she’s trying to help cultural Marxism, commie fucking nonsense, like that’s going to help their relationship. It’s just going to ruin the sexual polarity and make them not want to touch each other. But I digress.

And so, my response to all of them is go look at the reviews. There’s tens of thousands of them. I mean, there’s tons of forums and websites. There’s Reddit, where people have been applying my books and the things they’ve learned from me for many, many years, and they’ve got all kinds of great success stories. So, if I was full of shit, it would be all over the internet.

Thanks for sharing my story, and I hope I could help you and your channel to have a look on what is important for a woman who likes older guys.

All the best


Well, I like younger women too, so we totally appreciate that. And so, thanks for being an awesome wife to your husband, because not only are you changing each other’s lives, but everybody who you get to influence and be around, you’re having a positive impact on them and you’re providing positive role models, so people can look up to you guys. Because it is sure needed in today’s world.

Photo by iStock/Jacob Ammentorp Lund

Strong masculinity and strong femininity, the balance, sexual polarity, you’ve got to have those. It doesn’t matter if it’s a straight relationship, it’s a gay relationship, it’s a lesbian relationship. Without sexual polarity, you’re basically platonic roommates who aren’t fucking, and that’s no fun.

So, if you’ve got a question or a challenge and you’d like to get my help, go to, click the Products tab at the top of your screen and book a coaching session with yours truly.

“What really separates the Men from the boys? Men handle things. They say what they mean and mean what they say. They create a vision for themselves and their lives, and then they resolve to make it happen by taking action. Boys talk about what they are going to do and then proceed to make excuses and never really get around to getting their lives handled. This is why most women love older Men, because it often takes until Men are in their thirties to figure out themselves, their purpose and their lives. If a woman is going to trust her man to lead and keep her safe, he must be up to the task. He must be a doer and not a talker.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne

Photo by iStock/RobertoDavid

Click here to read this article on my website.




Life & Peak Performance Coach. I Teach Self-Reliance. Subscribe To My Newsletter To Read My eBooks “3% Man” & “Mastering Yourself” Free:

Love podcasts or audiobooks? Learn on the go with our new app.

Recommended from Medium

Emotional Truths About Grief Everyone Should Know

3 Feminine Qualities Men Adore in Women

3 Ways Valentines Day Will Make Or Break Your Relationship

So Much Can Change in 365 Days

Everything is different now

Aging and the Impulse to Love

Her: Friends With Benefits? Him: No Thanks.

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store
Coach Corey Wayne

Coach Corey Wayne

Life & Peak Performance Coach. I Teach Self-Reliance. Subscribe To My Newsletter To Read My eBooks “3% Man” & “Mastering Yourself” Free:

More from Medium

Why only losers complain about the game.

5 Things a Man Should Do Before the First Date

Women don’t say what they mean, they feel what they mean

Should I Block a Girl Who Rejected Me? (Read This First!)

Should I Block a Girl Who Rejected Me? (Read This First!)