Success With Women Is Due To A Positive Winning Mindset

Coach Corey Wayne
9 min readFeb 16, 2024
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Why being successful with women is due to a positive winning mindset.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss two different email success stories from two different viewers. The 1st email is a success story from a viewer who has been following my work for the past six years and has read 3% Man 17 times. He shares how powerful it is to call women to set and lead dates versus texting them. He shares the compliments a recent woman he hooked up with had about him and how he led her to the bedroom and made her feel safe.

The 2nd email is a success story from a young viewer who has been following my work for about two years and read 3% Man 15 times. He shares a recent success story about a beautiful woman he’s been dating from Japan and how fun, easy and effortless it has been. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of their emails.

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Not a butt-hurt red pill mindset, but a positive winning mindset.

You’re supposed to be dangerous but kind, not an angry, pissed off, unhappy man. The reality is, you don’t talk to women and berate them, argue with them and condescend to them and be nasty, like you see in a lot of these podcasts, which is very entertaining. That kind of stuff has always been entertaining. That goes all the way back to the 1980s, when you had guys like Morton Downey Jr, Jerry Springer, Sally Jessy Raphael.

There were a bunch of them that even Geraldo Rivera was in. Geraldo Rivera got a chair broken over his face. When you get a bunch of people together and they have a lot of drama and they argue, it’s great entertainment because human beings like that, they like the conflict, they like the dust-ups, but you’re not going to really get anything from it. That’s why they call it trash TV.

There’s a lot of podcasts, especially the red pill ones, where that’s all guys do. They invite strippers, hookers and sex workers, Only Fans girls, club girls and basically girls from broken homes and try to present the image that this is modern women. This is our dating pool that we have to choose from.

The reality is, I know me personally when I look at the women that are on these podcasts, those are not girls I wouldn’t even go and talk to, but it’s very entertaining and it’s funny. The problem is, is that guys get very angry, they get butt-hurt, they get upset because they see the podcasters doing that, and then they think, “Hey, this is how you talk to women,” and they do that and they repulse women.

I got two email success stories from guys that have done great, and both of them have read the book many times of the first guy. He’s read it 17 times. The other guy is 15 times. Follow me two years. The first guy’s been following me six years. So they put a lot of time, a lot of effort into undoing their bad behavior because this stuff’s not easy, taking 100% personal responsibility for your own life and blaming yourself for everyone and everything that’s in it. Everybody and everything that’s in your life you invited. You allowed them in and you keep them in your life. If things are not going well, you can’t point the finger and say it’s all their fault. You allowed them into your life, because as soon as you say, “Well, it’s all their fault,” then you absolve yourself from any blame. If you don’t take personal responsibility, then there’s nothing to fix. It’s somebody else’s fault.

It’s not a good mindset to have. It clouds your judgment, and it causes you to make mistakes that can cause enormous setbacks in your life. So what does it look like when people take my book and my work, implement it and have a positive, winning mindset, like the book teaches?

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1st Viewer’s Email:

Hey Coach Corey Wayne,

I wanted to let you know about my success and how knowing the material really is helpful!

I have been following you for six years read the book 17 times on my 18th read on Audible I am 29. One thing I have implemented is setting up dates via phone call.

It’s more masculine. Like I talk about in the book, to pick up the phone and call because everybody’s on their phone texting. If you’re trying to set yourself apart, just pick up the phone and call on a girl, and talking to her makes you look more confident, more direct, more decisive versus texting. You can also text, but if you are comfortable enough, which you should be, it’s better to call and you’ll see.

This is a great short success story. Guy meets a girl, they hang out, they have fun, they hook up, and she’s just like, “Man, you made it so easy.”

I recently went on a date this past week. I called and scheduled the date in the evening to grab a drink. My whole mindset was hang out, have fun and if the opportunity arises, hook up.

That’s the formula. Hang out, have fun, hook up.

My date and I hit it off well I was charismatic and confident felt the body language right I looked into her eyes and down at her lips before you know it we end up kissing.

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So he’s talking about the kiss test, which is discussed in the book. When you see something like that happen, you’re not going to get rejected. It takes all the mystery out of the interaction and knowing when to escalate. When the signs are there, you simply escalate because the book has prepared you for that.

When you’ve read the book 15, 20 times or whatever, then what happens is you don’t really have to think about these things. You just see it. There’s a sign she’s ready to be kissed. Boom! Kiss, and then escalate it to the next step.

She invited me back to her place. Had good conversation then we ended up in the sheets. She told me I just find it awesome you led everything and had the balls to call me. That’s when I knew it’s so easy once you understand the material and go with it.

She just opened the door. In essence, just let him right in because he acted like a man. He passed all the tests. For her, it’s probably a rare experience where a guy just clicks and gets it so well.

I treated this date like the Super Bowl playing as Tom Brady know the material and just do your job, it’s crazy how success works. Next step is to stay on track and set up another date. One thing you preach don’t get cocky and arrogant rinse repeat.

Rinse, recycle, repeat.

Coach, thank you again!

Bob

Well, thanks for that great little short success story. It’s a great way to end the week because the weekend’s coming up. I know guys are going to be watching this. They got dates lined up or they’re going out with their friends to have a good time. And these kinds of stories are inspiring and they’re fun. Plus they’ll be fresh in your mind.

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2nd Viewer’s Email:

Hey There Corey,

Hope it’s going great. I just wanted to reach out to tell you about a success story I’ve had thanks to your work.

I’m a young man from Toronto…

Which is in Canada, for those of you who don’t know, and a lot of people don’t know geography.

…And I started studying your work a couple years back, and have read or listened to 3% Man over 15 times. I also watch your videos almost daily. I’m about to graduate from College, my music career is picking up, I have an awesome paying part time job, I’m in great shape, and things just keep improving for me. Thanks to these changes, I was able to attract a beautiful young woman from Japan.

We’ve been together for about eight months and there hasn’t been a single argument.

Well, men who understand women do not argue with them. They communicate effectively.

We’re open and honest in our communication and enjoy a lot of love. She’s very submissive, receptive and supportive in her words and her actions and brings me a lot of warmth and joy.

Yesterday, it was time to bring this beautiful young woman to the airport so she could return to Japan as her visa expired. It was a very bittersweet moment…

I have had many of those moments when you’re doing long distance and you’re taking the girl to the airport, it’s tough, especially when you know when you’re in a great relationship and you’re really happy, you really love one another. Then you just spent several months together and all of a sudden she’s going to go back to her country for a few months. It’s not as fun as when she shows up, let’s put it that way.

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…And I feel it helped me understand the meaning of life and love more deeply.

Yeah, that’s what happens is it causes your heart to flower.

She had a teary goodbye and left me a letter where she thanked me for all the time spent together.

While I am planning to move to Japan in the Fall, I didn’t have any interest in a long distance relationship due to previous experience. Furthermore, we may not be living in the same city when I do move there. There’s a very real possibility of reconnection ~ but I could feel in my heart I wasn’t ready to absolutely commit to that.

It’s really good that you’re listening to what your intuition and your heart is telling you, because that is your truth. The worst thing you could be is feeling the opposite. Then yet, “Oh, let’s go get married.” Does that happen? A lot of guys get pressure put on them and they cave. When I did it once and you cave, then you get married and deep down you don’t really want to do it, it doesn’t feel right, but you’re young, you don’t know any better.

I will want freedom during the rest of my time in Toronto and during my Japan travels, and I felt it would be unfair to both of us to try and continue an online relationship.

Yeah, you know, Japan and Toronto, that’s pretty far apart on the globe.

We had an open and honest conversation about this, and while she wanted to be together, she understood and appreciated my honesty. It made the last couple weeks really special.

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Thanks to the growth you’ve helped me achieve, I am able to attract beautiful women pretty much every time I go out. But as of right now, I’m going to take my time and focus on building up more wealth, writing more music and focusing on manifesting my greatest self, before I jump back into the dating pool.

Thanks so much Coach! Your work is very much appreciated.

Cheers,

Bob

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Coach Corey Wayne

Life & Peak Performance Coach. I Teach Self-Reliance. Subscribe To My Newsletter To Read My eBooks “3% Man” & “Mastering Yourself” Free: http://bit.ly/CCWeBooks