Alpha Male Rules: Conservative Married To A Liberal
Why alpha males rule their lives, their world and their women, even if they don’t share the same political views.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a sixty-seven-year-old viewer who has been married for almost forty years. He retired as a full bird Colonel in the U.S. Army. He met his wife when he was twenty-seven and she was eighteen. He has been following my work since 2011 and has read my first book, How To Be A 3% Man eleven times.
He shares how politics was never much of an issue in their marriage until Trump got elected. He shares how it created problems in their marriage because his wife is, as he puts it, “a borderline socialist and a staunch leftist.” He explains how he handles their political conflicts and disagreements that cause her to purr like a kitten and submit to him. It’s a great example of how being a centered alpha male can make even the most difficult women become flexible, submissive and playful. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.
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I’ve got an interesting email after I did a video newsletter last week, “She Rejected Me Because I Support Trump,” where a guy had gone out on a couple of dates and hooked up with this girl. He was a Trump supporter and she was a lefty. On, I think was their second date, they got on the topic of politics, and obviously it didn’t go well. But at the end of the day, she ended up going home and sleeping with him. But when he tried getting in touch with her a few days later to go out on another date, she just told them that she couldn’t get past the politics, and they both moved on.
And so this particular viewer, what’s great is he’s sixty-seven years old and he’s been married almost forty years now to the same woman. She was eighteen and he was twenty-seven when they met. And what’s interesting is, he retired a full bird Colonel in the U.S. Army and is a staunch conservative, been that way his whole life, alpha male style guy. But his wife, as he puts it, is a borderline socialist and staunch leftist.
What was interesting is, politics was never really a big issue in their family. They never really talked much about it, except until Trump got elected. And then it obviously brought out a lot of the divisions. And so, it’s interesting to hear his perspective and how he handled those dust-ups and those conflicts with his wife, because I saw a lot of people in the comments and a lot of people messaging me like, how do you make it work when you’ve got somebody that your views are just diametrically opposed to one another? And this is a good email for that.
You know, in this particular case, our conflict is politics. And so, how do you handle things when you disagree with the person that you’re you’re with? Well, the most important thing is, as I discuss How To Be A 3% Man, she’s got to know who you are, what you want, what you’re all about, what you believe and what the principles are that you stand for. And the right people, even if they disagree with you, will love you just the same.
And so, that’s the kind of the thread that you see through his email, is that he’s always the alpha male. He’s got a take it or leave it kind of attitude. And you see four decades of how that works, because he’s followed me since 2011, he says, and mostly always did everything naturally that I talked about my first book, How To Be A 3% Man.
But despite the fact that he was married all these decades, he still had the attitude of, “Hey, I can get better, I can learn.” And obviously, that’s why he really got into How To Be A 3% Man, and he’s stuck with me for basically nine years. And so, I really appreciate the fact that people stick around and they jive with the message that I’ve got to say. And, you know, he’s gotten good success because of that, because this is a pretty touchy topic.
I know in my own family, we’ve had family members, especially when Trump first got elected, and they just flat out refuse, “Well, we’re not coming to visit you for Thanksgiving, because we’re so upset that you guys are Trump supporters,” which is absurd, but it is what is. I don’t really spend much time on Facebook, but, you know, I go there for my ad campaigns and things because my assistant does all of the posting, but I remember when Trump got elected, there were a lot of people that I had been friends with for many decades who unfriended me because of that — people I went to high school with, people I grew up with. I’m thinking, “What?” But that’s the way some people are. It’s like, no hard feelings. Don’t let the door hit you in the ass on the way out. I’m not going to change who I am or how I live my life, because you’re getting butt-hurt and upset and offended.
If you’re getting butt-hurt, upset and offended at my language, or how I live my life, or the way I live my life, then that’s your problem. I think it was Wayne Dyer who said, “Other people’s opinion of you is really none of your business.” That’s pretty powerful when you think about it, because then you don’t really have any attachment to how other people feel about you. It’s a good way to go through life, because when you care about what other people think about you, you then put them in a position of power where they can be a tyrant in your life, because you’re always seeking their approval and you’re hoping not to do things to upset or offend them.
I wrote about, in my second book Mastering Yourself, some some of the issues that I had with my old business partners that were very strong willed, alpha male type guys, that, oftentimes, it was kind of their way or the highway. And a lot of times, to avoid conflict, I would go along with things I didn’t really want to go along with, because we were all doing so well and making so much money together. But after a decade of that, you know, working together and being in business together, I just kind of had enough. And I wanted to do my own thing, my own way.
And, you know, all these years later, you know, 14, 15 years on, it’s nice not having business partners. It’s nice when I decide that if I want to do something, I can just go and do it. I’m not having to think about, how can I sell this to this person and get them on board with what I’m doing? And then once he’s on board, how to go to my other partner and and get him on board. It’s like, I don’t have to worry about those things anymore, and it’s so nice. It’s great for your your inner peace, let me tell you.
Dear Coach Corey,
I have followed you for a good number of years after I first discovered you on YouTube back in 2011.
Well again, I really appreciate the fact you stuck stuck around all these years.
I am a 67-year-old man, a retired full bird Colonel from the U.S. Army. I am writing to you in response to one of your most recent videos dealing with a gal who rejected one of your viewers for being a Trump supporter. After watching the video, I knew I had to write in and share my own experience between me and my very liberal wife.
Me and my wife have been married for almost forty years. We met when I was 27 and she was only 18. I had been raised in a traditional Conservative household and was brought up on strong American values.
And what’s crazy today, just like what you see on TV and then you see what’s going on with the school system, they’re not even taught these things anymore. And on top of that, a lot of kids are having it put into their mind that they should hate our country and that it should be destroyed. It’s like, man. It’s just amazing that night and day difference between like when I was growing up, what was sold to us and what was taught to us versus today.
Interestingly enough, my parents were themselves married for 60 years until my father’s death. Growing up in a such a household, I have been a Conservative all my life and am unwavering, yet not unreasonable in my viewpoints.
My wife on the other hand is a borderline Socialist and a staunch Leftist even at the age of 58. Like you always say Coach, women respond to what they respond to.
Attraction is not a choice. Feminine women are attracted to dominant, masculine men. You hear that referred to in the media and the news these days as “toxic masculinity.” And if you look at how men are presented, it’s just beat into our heads that men need to be more feminine. Harry Styles recently put on a dress, and you get a bunch of people in leftist Hollywood going, “Oh yeah, it’s so masculine to put on a woman’s dress.” It’s like, come on. Men don’t walk around wearing dresses like that just for the hell of it, trying to claim that they’re masculine, because they’ve got to fucking dress on. It’s like, give me a break.
But that’s the kind of shit that’s just rammed down our throat in our culture, because what happens is, when you weaken masculine men, when you weaken the alphas, when you make men more feminine, more submissive, more compliant, more afraid to speak up for themselves and what they believe in, that ‘go along to get along’ kind of attitude, and cause them to be more submissive, it puts them in a state of fear, because they’re no longer naturally in a natural state of masculinity, which is about purpose, drive, mission succeeding, breaking through barriers, overcoming challenges, accomplishing things.
And you get a guy that’s feminized and weak and insecure about himself, he’s kind of a mindless drone to the state, if you will. It allows people in power, when you’ve got a submissive, docile populace, that they’ll just go along with anything that comes down the pike, whether it be wearing a mask or giving up your guns.
I mean, all you’ve got to do is look at Australia and more recently, New Zealand, how one little event happens, and like, “Alright, we’re going to just ban these things and get rid of all of them. We’ll keep you all safe,” and then people just willingly give them up.
Just like what’s going on now with the virus and the lockdowns. You look at California and the governors are just going, “Close your business, and if you don’t close your business, we’ll send the police to arrest you and take you to jail for operating your business and feeding your family.” Meanwhile, none of these governors, they’re not writing the checks for these people whose businesses and lives are being destroyed in the name of ‘saving people’ supposedly.
What about all of the suicides increasing? What about all of the people’s lives that are destroyed? What about all the divorces that are going to happen now? What about all of the broken families that are going to happen because of these things? These jerk-offs in power never think about these things. But if you have a feminized population that’s weak, that’s too afraid to stand up for itself, then they just go along with these things.
And then you get the people, I’m sure you’ve seen, we’ve all had to deal with these mask police people that are just kind of nasty, like people that go around and yell at other people to “put your mask on.” I deal with this shit in my building now, and I tell people to fuck off. It’s like, “Get out of my face.” It’s like, if you’ve got a mask on, great. But when you look at the stats, they talk about the cases, but they don’t talk about the death rate — the fact that the cases might be going through the roof, but the death rate is relatively flat.
I live here in Florida and we’re mostly open, even though some of the commie mayors down in South Florida where I live are still imposing these mask mandates. But I’d say, at least half the people just completely ignore them. But that’s the kind of thing that happens. You know, as a country, we just sit back and we take this stuff, and yet millions of our countrymen and women are being destroyed financially. Their lives are being destroyed, their families are being destroyed. They put their whole lives into their business.
You know, businesses that have been around for decades, been in families for generations, are destroyed and completely out of business now, all in the interest of saving people, when the average death age of this thing is like 80 years old. That’s not right. There’s nothing honorable about that. And until enough people say enough of this shit and push back, these politicians will just keep getting away with these things.
But that’s what you see, especially in our world, where the government says something that’s unreasonable, and people, because they’re so weak and docile and compliant, they just go along with it. So back to our email here.
Acting like a dominant, self-assured Alpha will make even the most bullheaded of Commie women go weak in the knees.
Because, at the end of the day, if you’ve got a leftist wife, like he does in this case, or a leftist girlfriend, and you’re an alpha male, and you have a take it or leave it kind of attitude, you’re not going to apologize for your views of the world. Just like I’ve made my views known en masse and the other things that I was just talking about, I know I’m going to get a lot of hate for it. I know a lot of people will automatically thumbs down the video. It’s like, I don’t fucking care. I’m a man. I’m speaking my truth. If you don’t like it, nobody’s forcing you to be here.
But obviously, if you’re watching, you recognize that on some level, you know that I’m speaking truth. I tell it like it is. And if I was spouting bullshit, it would be all over the internet. People would be all over the internet saying “nothing that Corey teaches works.” But it’s the exact opposite. People go and they write about how “Mastering Yourself “ helped them, and how “How To Be A 3% Man” helped them and change their life.
My results speak for themselves, and I don’t care if people get offended. I don’t care if people get butt-hurt, because the world needs people that stand up for themselves and what they believe in, despite the consequences. Because the reality is, not everybody is going to like it. And if I was jumping through my butt trying to please people, there’s still going to be people that are going to be upset, so you might as well live and speak your truth, because life is too damn short.
Even though I have been married for many years, I have still read your book in excess of 11 times, and it has just reinforced the way I’ve been living most of my life, and my wife respects me more because of it.
She respects him because he acts like a man. That’s the important thing here. That’s a big part of what I teach, especially in “How To Be A 3% Man.” It’s really all about being a man. It’s not so much doing and saying the right things to get women, because the reality is, some women like you already. Attraction’s not a choice. And as long as you act like a masculine man consistently, that attraction will grow. And as long as she’s feeling the same thing you’re feeling and she respects you, the attraction will grow. But if you start acting like a bitch, it will go in the opposite direction. So, the only benefits in my experience, and here’s another guy, you act like a man, you get great results. It’s simple as that.
Through most of our marriage, politics weren’t readily discussed… until President Trump. Now, even though I have always identified as a Right Winger, I don’t just vote blindly Republican and even voted for Obama in 2008. My wife on the other hand has always been a “Vote Blue No Matter Who” person. So, when Donald Trump ran four years ago, he really struck a cord with me, and I was immediately impressed.
I did a video several years ago after he won called “25 Reasons Why Donald Trump Won,” and people are like, “Why do you like this guy?” Because, number one, he speaks his truth. He calls out problems, because you can’t solve problems unless you can talk honestly and openly about them. And that’s what I like about him. He talks about the problem, he identifies it. Everybody hates on him for it, and then he implements a system, a solution, and he actually gets things done.
Everybody said he’d never build the wall. Well, he’s got close to 500 miles of the wall built, even though the Democratic legislature and even his own Republican Party fought him tooth and nail, wouldn’t give him money to do it. So he found ways in the budget to reallocate money. He just won a court case the other day, I think it was like three and a half billion that he had taken from the defense budget to put towards the wall. And it’s helping.
All of the Border Patrol guys are saying it helps, because having that wall there makes it much easier. It eliminates all the people that would just walk across the border before. And now they can really concentrate their resources on those points where people are trying to get through the wall or identifying and finding tunnels and other ways. They’re able to utilize their resources more.
So I like the things that he’s done. I like what he’s done in the Middle East. I like all the peace deals. I like the fact that, you know, all these places in the Middle East that absolutely hated Israel are now having peace deals with them, and now they have flights flying black back and forth between their countries. That’s never happened before. The media never talks about it. Probably a lot of people watching this, they don’t even know anything about what’s been going on in the Middle East.
And that’s another thing. One of my friends was telling me, when I was writing this thing, my second book, “Mastering Yourself” in 2017–2018, a lot of the stuff that I talked about in there that was happening or was going to happen, it’s happened. I’m able to read the tea leaves, you know. I see things, the trends, the way things are going in life. And so, even though I got a lot of hate for it, I turned out to be right. I might not always be right, but I’m never wrong, as I often say.
My wife predictably, hated the guy from the word go. For the first time, politics became center stage in our house, and it brought some turmoil. My wife even threatened to walk out on me if I voted for such a “bigot.”
Because this is how you handle that. He believes in what he believes in. He supports Trump, and he’s like “This is who I’m voting for.” And she says, “I’m going to leave you if you vote for that guy.” You know, remember I talked about it in “How To Be A 3% Man,” that movie where Russell Crowe is the boxer and his wife is like, “If you fight in this fight, I’m not going to support you. I’m not going to come watch it. I’m not going to participate, I don’t agree with this at all,” and he’s like, “I’m a fighter. I’ve got to do it anyway.” And yet she still listened and still supported him, even though she said she wouldn’t, because he was acting like a man. He was doing what was right.
That’s why when a guy gets drafted and he goes off to war, or in World War II’s case, people just signed up, and the wife or the parent was like, “Oh, I don’t want you to go, stay here.” It’s like, the man has to go. A man does what he must. Damn the consequences.
I simply smiled and told her that even though I loved her to death, if she wanted to leave, she knew where the door was. I wasn’t budging in my convictions and even joked that I would find my own Melania if she left.
What a great comeback, because that’s the right way to handle that. A woman is trying to get you to compromise on your principles and threatens to leave or threatens to end the relationship, he’s like, “Bye.” The strongest negotiating position is being able to walk away and mean it, so for him to stay in the marriage and compromise his principles in hopes that she’ll stay? So, say he does that and then she stays. Guess what happens now? He’s compromised his principles and he’s acting like a bitch. What do you think, how she’s going to react? She’s going to become bitchier and and look for other reasons to find a chink in his armor, because now she doesn’t trust his masculine core, because she got him to cave on something that he really believed in. But obviously, he did the right thing because he’s a man.
She pouted a bit realizing that I had called her bluff and a short time later returned to the loving wife she had always been, even though she still hates the President. For the record, I can’t stand that cocksucker, Biden, but did not put up a fuss when she put up a Biden lawn sign. I just put my Trump sign right next to it, which she hates.
That’s awesome. It’s like this is my House too. I want to support Trump and put my sign right next to yours. I don’t know if any of you have seen that. I’ve seen that in some of the neighborhoods around where I live, it’s kind of funny. You could tell, there’s people that live in the house that there’s differing political opinions. I think it’s great.
Thankfully, my oldest son takes after me and is more Conservative minded, even planning to run for public office on behalf of the GOP. My younger two take more after their mother and lean squarely to the Left, but that’s life, I guess.
I just wanted to share my story and show that even when on totally opposite sides of the political aisle, a marriage can work between two people. Just as long as a man acts like a goddamned man and is always centered in his purpose, his woman will always stand by his side, no matter how liberal minded… I’m living proof.
Well, one caveat is, as long as she’s not fucking crazy and she belongs to the streets! By the way, I finally got my “She Belongs To The Streets!” mugs. I know you guys have been asking for them. I see you guys have been ordering a bunch of these when I mentioned it last week. So these are definitely available in my Teespring store.
Thank you so much for all that you do Coach, you keep making America great in your own way with your amazing work. Trump 2020!
Make America Great Again, Trump 2020!
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“Alpha males always stand up for themselves and what they believe in. They do not change their opinions to match the opinions of others in hopes that they do not get offended or upset. They speak their mind and live their truth and are considered to be the most honest and trustworthy of men, because people always know where they stand with them. They have a take it or leave it kind of attitude and know that the right people will stick around and celebrate who they are, while those that don’t are encouraged to find people who are a better match for them.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne